SWINGER COUPLES – HOW TO SEPARATE SEX AND EMOTIONS

Swinger couples have voluntary agreed to step outside of their monogamous partnership when they choose to explore the lifestyle. While the opportunities for wild nights, great sex and the chance to meet new couples in the swinger's lifestyle can be exciting there are just some emotions that can impede the good times ahead.
Let’s pull down the blindfold and take a peek at these tips for keeping those feelings in check when partner sharing.
How to Cope with Feelings of Neglect & Partner Fears
There might be incidences when one partner is enjoying the experience a little more than the other. This can leave one partner feeling neglected. These emotions of neglect can manifest if not addressed right away and have your partner believing that they may be replaced by the outside participant.
Keep in mind that you and your partner are in this together. Feelings of neglect should be discussed with open communication. Should this issue arise, swinger couples should have a serious talk to clarify their intentions, feelings, signs etc. and take action to make your partner feel more comfortable.
Remember, having a keen enjoyment of a third party or couple is the goal of swinging, and it’s unlikely that there is a plan on swapping one out permanently for a new playmate. If the issue persists, some may decide to take a temporary break from the lifestyle to work it out with conversations or a new set of “rules.”
The Curse of the Green-Eyed Monster
Getting a bit jealous isn’t unusual—even for seasoned lifestyle couples. Either party can have feelings of envy, particularly if their mate seems to have a stronger connection with a playmate. To curb these feeling, consider that having chemistry with a play partner is not always a negative thing after all, the better the chemistry, the better the sex. Be mindful and make sure both partners share the same chemistry with playmate to combat any feeling of jealousy.
However, should you feel that this threatens you or your relationship, communication can help alleviate any trust issues—and they do happen sometimes in the swinging lifestyle. Before delving into the swinger's lifestyle, contemplate how constructively you’d be able to talk to each other to address jealousy. There may be some actions you consider “off limits” until you get these feelings under control.
Coping with Emotions If One or Both Fall for Another Person
Ideally, both individuals in the relationship should share chemistry with your play partner. Should these feelings develop into a stronger connection, having a discussion about this with your partner is important and should be done as soon as you feel the relationship changing. Swinger couples' bond is normally stronger than most and can sustain open and honest communication about any topic including whatever feelings you may start to develop.
There are many situations in which the primary partners are open to having a polyamorous relationship with the person or pair they’ve made a deep connection with. If thoughts of this come to fruition, be prepared for a wave of emotions. Just remember, that inviting someone to your bed on a temporary or part-time polyamorous agreement has challenges, so all parties should be a part of the conversation.
Stay in Check Emotionally
Remember, we are all humans and emotions can run wild when sex and chemistry are in play. The key is to not let those feelings get out of hand and affect your relationship in a negative way so it is important to check in from time to time with your partner to make sure they are still emotionally secured with the fun you are both having. Discuss before, during and after having playtime to talk out any feelings that you may be having. Both fears and excitement can be a con or a pro depending on how you handle them when they surface.