Not In The Mood?

Stepping into the office of a sex therapist can be daunting. You’re nervous about opening up to a stranger about something you can barely talk about with your partner. 

And worst of all, you worry your therapist will tell you the thing you fear the most: That you actually have a sexual desire disorder. 

As a formally trained sex therapist myself, I’ve been on the other side of this conversation more times than I can count. And I feel it’s important to share that even though diagnoses can be helpful — they can also be pretty unhelpful, too. 

Because within the diagnosis of a sexual desire disorder itself lies the very idea that most of us don't want to be true. That there, in fact, is something wrong with us.

There may be, however, a different way to look at the conversation around low libido, low desire and mismatched desires within relationships.

Not In The Mood? How A 'Sexual Desire Disorder' Diagnosis May Help — Or Make Things Worse