- What looks like low desire can simply be a predictable reaction to a partner's ideas about sex.
- All bodies, ages, and orientations are eligible for sexual desire and satisfaction.
- With the right attitude, it's impossible to "fail" at sex. But with the wrong attitude, it's entirely possible.
Some people would rather be right than enjoy sex.
They demand that sex be a certain way, no matter how narrow or unrealistic—or pointless—that is.
Or they insist that bodies—whether their own or their partners’—can only be eligible for desire or pleasure if they’re nearly perfect (however they define that).
Or they refuse to acknowledge that their partner has changed—even if it’s a change they’ve been asking for.
Yes, if you want to see human stubbornness and irrationality on display, be a sex therapist. Here are some common problems I deal with over and over every year. In each instance, the person’s struggle is of their own making. I’m sympathetic, of course, but these people could improve their sexual relationships without their partners doing anything different. What else could you ask for?
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