Men’s Fears of Disappointing Their Partners

Men's biggest worry: not being good enough for their partners.

Men feel like they have failed as a man when they disappoint women.

• Men are stressed, always watching for any sign that they have failed.

• This focus on others' happiness makes it hard for men to experience their own happiness or pleasure.

Stereotypically, protecting and providing for women and children is a large part of what defines masculinity. Men are expected not to need anything from anyone, while at the same time, they are expected to make sure all their partner’s and family’s needs are seamlessly taken care of.
A good man takes care of his wife and family, and if he falls short, he is judged by himself and others as less of a man. This is a vulnerable position for men as they are continuously subject to failing and feeling bad about themselves.
Men’s Fears of Disappointing Their Partners