The BDSM Lifestyle and Becoming a Submissive

If you are bored with everyday vanilla sex, you may be looking to expand your horizons and take things to a new level. If the thought of being controlled, dominated and told what to do, while also being handcuffed, tied up or whipped appeals to you, being a submissive to a dom or dominatrix may be the spark that lights up your sex life. However, many people have no idea where to start, so here are a few tips to help you.
Familiarize Yourself With the Lifestyle and Terminology
When you are first getting started, take the time to research the lifestyle and the terminology used. This helps you to familiarize yourself with the terms that are used frequently by those involved in the lifestyle and that will give you a better understanding of what you are getting yourself into. There are a lot of misconceptions and misinterpretations of both terminology and the lifestyle, so educating yourself before getting involved is recommended.
Find the Right Partner
When you are ready to get started, you will need to find the right partner. If you are involved in a relationship, you and your partner may be taking this journey together. If not, there are plenty of forums and online relationship websites and apps that put a dom or dominatrix in contact with a submissive. Just like a normal dating app, you can look at pictures, bios and profiles to find a partner that appeals to you.

Set Boundaries
Once you have found the right partner, take the time to sit down and talk with them about your boundaries and theirs. Even though you are playing the role of a submissive person, you still have the right to say what you will do and won’t do. A great dom will take your boundaries into consideration and ensure you are comfortable at all times. Most couples also set a safe word, so if you do feel uncomfortable, you can say the word and they will stop or tone down whatever they are doing.
Start Slow and Expand From There
The last tip to becoming a submissive in the BDSM lifestyle is to start out slowly and expand from there. You wouldn’t jump into the deep end of a pool and sink or swim. You want to learn to swim before you do that. The same is true with this. Start out slowly and expand from there so you don’t overwhelm yourself and so you can establish what you are comfortable with.
Becoming a sub, or submissive in the BDSM world can help you explore your sexuality and pull you out of a sexual funk. Following these steps will help put you on the right path to a relationship that works for both you and the dom or dominatrix you are playing with.