Friday, December 30, 2022
Things The Most Attractive Women Do Very Differently
Sure, deep down we’re all dreaming about the day we bring home "the one." But right now? Right now, we want to create a home of our own and on our own. Or we want to jump from home to home because we’re not tied down, and we like it that way for now.
Society can make it seem like being single at a certain age means you’re falling behind. As a fellow single woman, I vehemently disagree.
Man Lists Key Questions to Ask Before Jumping Into Bed with Someone
TikToker @therapyjeff is at it again, and this time, he's proposing a list of questions to ask before hopping into the sack with someone.
Well, this is definitely a thoughtful and compressive list of questions. Though, they are also great questions to ask someone before sleeping with them. Getting answers to these will reveal a lot about the person you're with and they'll help you feel more comfortable with your encounters as well.
Some viewers seem to agree as well. TikToker @sowhatandisahi says, "I love your out of the box questions, they really help me approach communication."
On the other hand, other viewers are a little hesitant about the experience of asking questions like these. Commenter @bdnoises says, "The moment would definitely be lost if those 8 questions were asked," and @bemmoth says, "I feel like some people don't know the answer to some even after several years together."
It's understandable that having a full-on Q and A session beforehand isn't exactly sexy, but healthy communication is essential if you want to maximize on the connection and intimacy with your partner. If these questions are extremely awkward for you to ask, it might be wise to explore in order to understand why that might be.
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The Qualities Women Find IRRESISTIBLY Attractive in Men
Are you trying to figure out how to be the most attractive man you can be? You’ve come to the right place.
The question of what makes a man attractive has a two-fold answer—the physical and the mental are two completely different areas, and you should ideally master both.
And no, it’s not as easy as it sounds. Women have very particular preferences. For instance, research has found that women love it most when you have heavy stubble. Not a beard. Not a clean-shaven face. No, not even light stubble. It needs to be heavy stubble, or else your chance of success drops!
And don’t even get me started on muscles. What makes a man attractive physically isn’t simply if he has muscles or not – it’s the actual degree of your muscularity.
Overdo it, and you’re out. Underdo it, and… you guessed it. Moderate muscularity has been rated most attractive.
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What can I say? Women are very particular creatures. Despite what many people think, we do know what we want. We’re just so picky about it that we even confuse ourselves sometimes.
Jokes aside, your degree of muscularity or the length of your beard are nowhere near as important as the way you act.
As the saying goes:
“Actions speak louder than words.”
Let me mix it up a bit.
Actions speak louder than beards and muscles.
Here are seven crucial qualities that make guys attractive to women!
The question of what makes a man attractive has a two-fold answer—the physical and the mental are two completely different areas, and you should ideally master both.
And no, it’s not as easy as it sounds. Women have very particular preferences. For instance, research has found that women love it most when you have heavy stubble. Not a beard. Not a clean-shaven face. No, not even light stubble. It needs to be heavy stubble, or else your chance of success drops!
And don’t even get me started on muscles. What makes a man attractive physically isn’t simply if he has muscles or not – it’s the actual degree of your muscularity.
Overdo it, and you’re out. Underdo it, and… you guessed it. Moderate muscularity has been rated most attractive.
What can I say? Women are very particular creatures. Despite what many people think, we do know what we want. We’re just so picky about it that we even confuse ourselves sometimes.
Jokes aside, your degree of muscularity or the length of your beard are nowhere near as important as the way you act.
As the saying goes:
“Actions speak louder than words.”
Let me mix it up a bit.
Actions speak louder than beards and muscles.
Here are seven crucial qualities that make guys attractive to women!
Women Lose Sexual Desire For 'Man-Children,' According to Study
At least, that’s according to a new study conducted by researchers from Canada and Australia. The study found that women experience a decline in sexual desire for men who they see as their dependents, instead of partners.
The study collected data and survey results from 700 women, all of whom had children and a male partner. The findings revealed that when household chores are not shared equally, with women taking on the bulk of the responsibilities, women experience a decrease in sexual interest in their male partners and their perceived dependence.
Long story short, women don’t want to have sex with a man-child.
Characterized by general helplessness, man-children are the grown men who can’t seem to learn how to wash the dishes, take out the trash, or look after their own children. Another common trait among man-children is the habit of weaponizing incompetence.
Mommy kinks are one thing, but complete dependence on a female partner to take on household chores kills women’s sex drives. According to the study, there’s nothing less sexy than when the line between mother and partner is blurred.
So, what is desirable? Being an equal partner.
The study collected data and survey results from 700 women, all of whom had children and a male partner. The findings revealed that when household chores are not shared equally, with women taking on the bulk of the responsibilities, women experience a decrease in sexual interest in their male partners and their perceived dependence.
Long story short, women don’t want to have sex with a man-child.
Characterized by general helplessness, man-children are the grown men who can’t seem to learn how to wash the dishes, take out the trash, or look after their own children. Another common trait among man-children is the habit of weaponizing incompetence.
Mommy kinks are one thing, but complete dependence on a female partner to take on household chores kills women’s sex drives. According to the study, there’s nothing less sexy than when the line between mother and partner is blurred.
So, what is desirable? Being an equal partner.
The Reasons Methuselah (the Tree) has Survived for 5,000 Years
A bristlecone pine in California is the oldest living thing on earth. The tree named Methuselah is estimated to be around 5,000 years old! How in the world does a tree last that long? It comes down to adaptation to environmental stresses, plus luck in the extremity of those environmental stresses. Minute Earth explains how Methuselah is perfectly adapted to deal with the things that normally kill trees. Then there are humans, like the one who killed Methuselah's neighbor Prometheus. In that case, Methuselah was defenseless, but also just plain lucky. This video is only two and a half minutes long, the rest is a promotion.
10 times this year (2022) the Webb telescope blew us away with new images of our stunning universe
Launched on December 25 last year and fully operational since July, the telescope offers glimpses of the universe that were inaccessible to us before. Like the Hubble Space Telescope, the JWST is in space, so it can take pictures with stunning detail free from the distortions of Earth’s atmosphere.
However, while Hubble is in orbit around Earth at an altitude of 540km, the JWST is 1.5 million kilometers distant, far beyond the Moon. From this position, away from the interference of our planet’s reflected heat, it can collect light from across the universe far into the infrared portion of the electromagnetic spectrum.
Five space exploration missions to look out for in 2023
2023 is set to be another busy year. Here are five of the most exciting missions to watch out for.
Honeybees are at risk, along with the crops they pollinate.
The honeybees looked perfectly healthy, buzzing about their boxy wooden hive on a warm autumn day in central Pennsylvania. Elizabeth Capaldi suspected otherwise. Clad in a protective white suit and hat, the biologist reached out with a gloved hand to capture one of the insects in a small vial, then took it back to her Bucknell University laboratory to dissect its brain. Her colleague David Rovnyak later placed a sample of the bee’s innards inside a large metal cylinder and pelted it with high-frequency radio waves — a type of scanning technology that revealed the amounts of certain telltale chemicals within.
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Rare Fossil Creature Shows Up In Arizona
Yahoo! News reported that a creepy, prehistoric-looking “dinosaur shrimp” has shown up in Arizona. These creatures were discovered on December 23, 2022, by a tourist in The Wave, a sandstone rock formation and tourist spot.
The visitors found a pool of water in the area and noticed some tadpole-like shrimps that were the living fossils we were talking about. According to experts, these beings dated all the way back to the Jurassic age. Talk about ancient!
These creatures are called Triops and are described as looking like little mini-horseshoe crabs with three eyes. While it’s nice to find that some ancient crustaceans are still alive and kicking, we have to ask, why are they appearing now?
According to Central Michigan University, the shrimp eggs can lie dormant for many decades until enough rain comes to create lakes. So, the pool of water must have formed recently for the tadpoles to hatch from the eggs. It is perfectly natural, so don’t worry that their appearance is a sign of an impending apocalypse or something. It isn’t!
Thursday, December 29, 2022
The Daily Drift
Welcome to today's issue of Carolina Naturally
'Nuff Said!
Today is December 30, 2022
Today is: No Interruptions Day
In 1460CE: Wars of the Roses: Battle of Wakefield (Northern England), Duke of York killed, and his forces soundly defeated by forces for King Henry VI
Ain't That The Truth
Editorial
The last day before all the Year End Parties and all is well - the rain starts just in time for the parties though ... so a soggy start to the nude year!
We do want to give a shout out to our readers around the world and say thanks for stopping by to read Carolina Naturally.
Remember to have fun and enjoy life.
Editorial Staff
The Dizzying Debauchery of Babylon
The scene, filled with wondrous and horrifying sights, massively overstays its welcome. And that sets the tone perfectly for Chazelle’s ensuing poison-pen letter to Hollywood’s silent era, a three-hour-plus extravaganza of debauchery, general misery, and overflowing movie magic that sets the industry aflame and invites the audience to dance around the bonfire. It’s a daring thing for a major studio to put out these days, when big budgets tend to be lavished on superheroes, and Babylon’s caustic indulgence will likely put many theatergoers off. But Chazelle is trying to make a point with all the excess: that the joy of cinema has always gone hand in hand with exploitation, abuse, and off-screen villainy.
On its face, Babylon would seem to be the flip-side narrative to La La Land, the director’s Oscar-winning musical about filmmaking, which took a much gauzier approach. In it, people sang winsome ballads saluting “the fools who dream,” and stardom was granted to those who strived hard enough for it, though it came at the cost of love. But La La Land was a film with a bittersweet edge; Chazelle seemed to be critiquing his own nostalgia while still letting it play out on-screen to delight viewers. In Babylon, his affection for the fame-seeking business he works in has only curdled further, but his passion for film as a medium hasn’t diminished in the slightest. The subsequent raging contrast between these two notions is fascinating to watch.
A huge ensemble piece, Babylon focuses on three main characters. There’s Manny, a Mexican American assistant who rises through the ranks of a fictional studio to become a film executive right as movies begin their transition to “talkies.” At the frenzied party in the film’s opening act, he meets two actors: Nellie LaRoy (Margot Robbie), a newcomer looking to break into the biz, and Jack Conrad (Brad Pitt), an established superstar who can’t get out of bed before downing a few cocktails. Babylon follows each person’s rise and fall as their arcs intertwine and come apart, but it also delves into other tales of an industry stumbling toward a veneer of respectability during one of its most volatile eras.
Hollywood in the 1920s was, Chazelle insistently tells us, absolutely anarchic. Bankrolled by shady figures, filmmakers were still inventing basic storytelling concepts on the fly, and codes for on-screen decency and morality were a few years off. At one point, Chazelle virtuosically shoots a series of gigantic film productions all taking place simultaneously in the same California hills, a conceit that was feasible when movies didn’t have to worry about capturing sound. While one director wrangles thousands of extras for a colossal medieval-combat scene (somewhat reminiscent of the famed 1916 epic Intolerance), other productions play out on intimate sets that have been knocked together. Chazelle’s camera roams from location to location, drinking in the wild glory of it all.
It might be the best sequence Chazelle has ever put together, and he’s staged quite a few dazzling set pieces in his short career. He wants the viewer to consider the sheer audacity of early moviemaking, particularly delighting in the contrast between the immense battle being orchestrated for one movie and an emotional barroom scene being produced for another, in which Nellie, a last-minute replacement, proves herself the saucy new star the studio’s been looking for. By the time the sequence ended, I was ready to proclaim Babylon a masterpiece, except that the film wasn’t even halfway done.
What follows is a dizzying series of concentric spirals for the ensemble that start feeling almost nauseating. Nellie’s initial triumphant success begins to falter because of her scandalous off-screen behavior; Jack’s image begins to fade with age, alcoholism, and changing trends; Manny’s desire to rise to the top compels him to make a set of morally compromising decisions. There are other characters with narratives rooted in film history that are equally fascinating, though they sadly get shorter shrift in Chazelle’s screenplay. Li Jun Li plays Lady Fay Zhu, a cabaret singer and an actress with a gift for painting silent-film title cards, and Jovan Adepo plays a trumpeter named Sidney Palmer who briefly enjoys fame during the early years of films with sound.
Almost all of these figures have historical analogues, with many of them blending classic bits of Hollywood lore—Nellie is obviously inspired by the flapper queen Clara Bow, Jack is the tragic silent star John Gilbert, Fay Zhu is much indebted to Anna May Wong, and so on. But Chazelle turns up the volume with each portrayal, mixing fact and fiction and giving his dialogue more contemporary snap and crackle to underline the ways the industry hasn’t changed after almost 100 years. Although I was moved and agitated by the cavalcades of failure Babylon depicts, the film almost deliberately becomes a drag, wringing out every last golden drop of nostalgia until everyone, on-screen and off, is miserable and exhausted.
But before ushering ticket buyers out the door, Chazelle presents a coda that is so absurd and daring, so simultaneously cornball and avant-garde, that I wasn’t sure whether to doff my cap or throw fruit at the screen. I shan’t describe it entirely, but it includes a montage that exists to underscore Chazelle’s core message about the world he’s working in. Yes, he seems to be saying, Hollywood is a fetid pit of exploitation that has sucked many souls dry over the decades, but it is all in service of the best entertainment money can buy. I’m not sure if I agree or if I was simply beaten into submission after more than three hours, but Babylon is the kind of grandiose folly that at least gives the viewer a big old mess to chew on.
My sex life is saved after 8 plastic surgeries in 1 day — I leave the lights on now
A model who had eight painful plastic surgeries in a single day says she’s now having the hottest sex of her life — and even leaves the lights on when she gets down and dirty.
Jenny Miranda went under the knife earlier this month after suffering from debilitating insecurities that left her only able to make love in the dark.
Over the course of a single day, the Italian beauty got a nose job, a Brazilian butt lift, 360-degree HD liposuction and surgeries to tighten her legs and arms.
Now, Miranda says she feels sexier than ever — and her frisky fiancé is reaping the benefits in the bedroom.
“I don’t turn the lights off when I have sex anymore — I feel better than ever,” Miranda told NeedtoKnow.online. “When it’s just the two of us, the lighter, the better!”
The influencer — who boasts more than half a million followers on Instagram — even bragged about her bountiful booty, saying: “It’s beautiful!”
My sex life is saved after 8 plastic surgeries in 1 day — I leave the lights on now
SOLUTIONS TO EASE SEXUAL PERFORMANCE ANXIETY
Chances are you’ve experienced sexual performance anxiety at some point in your life. Anxiety disorders are the most common health issue in the United States after all, and sex, as wonderful as it is, can be pretty nerve-wrecking, especially when you’re inexperienced or with a new partner.
The idea that sex is a “performance” is exactly the problem, as it’s falsely regarded as something to be scrutinized and evaluated by an audience. This, naturally, makes people more nervous and critical of themselves.
These anxieties can stem from a number of issues like body image, fear of intimacy, past trauma, relationship problems, various sexual dysfunctions, and so on. And the ways they can manifest are just as profuse, whether it’s erectile dysfunction (difficulty getting or keeping an erection), premature ejaculation, lack of desire, or even avoiding sex altogether. Unfortunately, there is no universal cure for how to get rid of sexual anxiety, but there are some solutions that can help manage it.
If your sexual performance anxiety persists, intensifies and/or becomes unmanageable, you may want to speak with a doctor. They can perform some tests to ensure these issues don’t stem from an underlying health condition or medication. You may also benefit from talking and working through these anxieties with a sex therapist. But first, take a browse below and see if any of these solutions help.
UNDERSTAND THAT SOME PERFORMANCE ANXIETY IS COMPLETELY NORMAL:
You need to understand how perfectly normal it is to be a little anxious before sex. I mean, think about it: sex is the most vulnerable and intimate human act there is, so naturally there is going to be some nerves, especially when you’re inexperienced or with a new partner. In fact, research cites that psychological erectile dysfunction (mostly caused by anxiety) affects about 90 percent of teenagers and young men. Perhaps by knowing that these nerves are common (and not something that only you are dealing with, which can certainly creep its way into our heads) will spare you from spiraling.
CONSIDER CHANGING YOUR PORN HABITS:
Porn, as fantastic a stimulant it is, creates unrealistic expectations for sex. That’s because porn is entertainment, and just like Hollywood movies, they often cast absurdly beautiful people as your average joe or pizza delivery man. In porn, the penises are always massive, always hard and always cum on cue. This is not reflective of reality, and unfortunately, because we don’t have comprehensive sex education in our schools, porn is the most available resource for such information. It’s gotten to the point that porn consumption might even be linked to lower sexual satisfaction and lower erectile function in some men, as these expectations are rarely met. So if you think porn is making you anxious about sex, try limiting your consumption, or find studios or creators with more realistic content that doesn’t make you feel inferior.
DO THINGS THAT RELIEVE STRESS PRIOR:
Dwelling on something that’s making you anxious just makes things worse, so keep yourself busy in the hours leading toward sex and do something to relieve stress. Go for a run, take a nice long bubble bath, call a friend, pour yourself a drink, smoke a joint, or something equally soothing. You know yourself better than anyone else, so choose the activity that works best for you.
STRAY FROM GOAL-ORIENTED SEX:
Goal-oriented sex means that you have sex with the goal that all partners will climax. While that would be lovely, it’s not realistic. According to research, only heterosexual men are consistently orgasmic during sex (95 percent of the time), while heterosexual women orgasm were least least likely (65 percent of the time). Assuming the figures in this study were self-reported, the numbers are probably lower because research shows time and time again how much people tend to exaggerate when it comes to sex. As anyone knows personally, a lack of orgasm doesn’t mean you didn’t enjoy yourself during the romp. And, if anything, the pressure to orgasm distracts us from enjoying the moment, making us less likely to orgasm. So, take the pressure away and enjoy the experience whether you climax or not.
STOP MAKING SEX SO DICK-CENTRIC:
As we were told in middle school, penetration is the “home run” of sexual acts. This consideration largely stems from heteronormative and patriarchal beliefs that prioritize procreation. Truth is, penetration is just one way to have sex, so it’s not going to be everyone’s favorite. We still have tongues, fingers, and a great number of erogenous zones all over our bodies that are deeply pleasurable. Besides, research has found only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic intercourse, with 75 percent requiring clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. Not to mention, experts say it’s “normal” to have trouble getting or keeping an erection for up to 20 percent of sexual encounters. So if your anxieties revolve around performance, take you or your partner’s penis out of the equation, and explore your many other options.
USE SEX TOYS:
Sex toys are the ultimate tag-team partner during sex. When performance anxiety rears its head, tag in a sex toy and use it on your partner. Toys allow people to explore new and novel ways of being intimate and, as an added bonus, they take the pressure off performing. They might also help bring your confidence back, or temporarily please your partner when your erection isn’t cooperating, and you’re ready to enter the ring again. Research has found that men who regularly use vibrators on themselves or others report higher orgasm frequency, erectile function, sexual desire and sexual satisfaction than those who don’t, so, really, there’s no reason not to give sex toys a try.
COMMUNICATE BEFOREHAND:
If you’re anxious about sex, sometimes just putting everything out in the open can help. Do you typically not orgasm during oral sex? Tell them. If you’re not sure about how they’d react, keep comminiating until you’re more comfortable being vulnerable. For example, do they seem judgmental and shallow, or kind and accommodating? If you get the vibe that they’re the latter, it might make you more comfortable sharing this information. A conversation about expectations and boundaries before sex can make you and your partner far less anxious heading into things.
NORMALIZE YOUR BODY TO YOURSELF:
If your performance anxiety stems from body image issues, you may benefit from exposing yourself to your body more often. Some of us dislike our bodies so much that we avoid looking at them. But this behavior, while understandable, won’t herald progress. Wear your underwear around the house, post a picture you would never think to post, cultivate body-positive news feeds on social media, and do things that make you feel sexy. Play a character if you have to. Keep it up for long enough and you’ll eventually believe it.
Remind yourself that this person wants to sleep with you. It might sound silly but sometimes we need that reminder when we’re in our heads. They find you sexually attractive, that’s not up for debate, despite the voices in your head saying otherwise. You might hate that you don’t have a six pack or that you may not be as experienced as they are, but these things aren’t even on that person’s radar. You are, without a doubt, criticizing yourself way more harshly than anybody else would.
A Bushel of Dominants: What Kind of Top Are You?
So, we're exploring a few domination styles to help you budding tops discover which one you might be.
For those already experienced in the giving side of BDSM, our list might even inspire you to try something new -- or maybe learn who you truly want to be as a top.
But before we dive into the different kinds of tops out there, let us remind you: BDSM should be respectful and inclusive.
Domination cannot always be "safe," as participating in edgier kinds of play is -- for some-- an alluring element of the taboo surrounding kink.
However, following Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) principles can help ensure everyone involved is aware of the hazards that come along with certain BDSM activities and consents to participate despite them.
With that in mind, here are a few dominant types to explore:
YOUR GUIDE TO CREATING A SEX PAINTING WITH YOUR PARTNER
Have you ever thought about getting creative in the bedroom and making a sex painting? It’s an activity that’s more popular than you’d think, with many couples taking on the challenge of creating their one-of-a-kind piece of art.
If you’re interested in exploring your artistic side and sex together, you might also be curious to try making a sex painting with your partner!
WHAT IS A SEX PAINTING?
A sex painting is an art piece that you can make by covering yourself and your partner in paint and having sex on a canvas. It can be a very fun and exciting way to bring something fresh into the bedroom while also creating unique artwork for your home.
TOOLS YOU’LL NEED TO MAKE A SEX PAINTING
You can find sex painting kits online. These kits already have every single tool you will need for a sex painting, making it super easy to get started.
While these kits are convenient, they are a bit pricey. But don’t worry, if you don’t want to spend $100 on a kit, you can easily create your own! Here are the tools you’ll need for your personal sex painting kit:
- Body-safe washable paint
- Brushes
- Towels
- Single-use slippers
- Old sheets
- A canvas or a large piece of paper (make sure it’s sturdy)
- A frame for your painting
A STEP-BY-STEP PROCESS OF HOW TO MAKE A SEX PAINTING AT HOME WITH YOUR PARTNER
Now that you’ve got your tools, it’s time to get down to business and get covered in paint.
STEP 1: PREPARE YOUR SPACE
Before you start your painting, it’s smart to spend some time preparing your space. Just like with any other art project, things can get messy really quickly. And to prevent a long and boring cleanup, it’s better to prepare to prevent the mess as much as possible in advance.
So, choose a place in your home that offers the most open space for your project. You might want to move the furniture around to make even more space and to ensure that white sofas are as far from you and the paints as possible. If moving the furniture is not an option, consider covering it with plastic wraps or even old sheets to prevent splatter.
Next, you’ll want to place some old sheets on the floor where you’ll be playing. This will protect the floor, and it will also make it more comfortable for you and your partner as you’re rolling around while making the painting.
Place the canvas or a large sheet of paper on the old sheets, gather your paints and brushes and make sure you have some towels on hand for the cleanup. The single-use slippers are very convenient for after you’re done and need to walk to the bathroom for a cleanup. We doubt you want to leave footprints on your floor…
STEP 2: DECIDE ON THE DIRECTION
Once your space is ready to go, it’s a good idea to discuss the direction of your art with your partner. Do you want to paint each other or paint yourselves? Maybe you want to put the paint on the canvas directly instead.
Talk about which body parts you want to avoid. For example, you definitely don’t want to put paint on your genitals as that might cause an unpleasant reaction afterward.
This is your time to channel your inner artist and get fun with the creative decisions you want to make while you do this.
STEP 3: GET NAKED!
Finally, it’s time to shed your clothing and get to the best part. You can make this process simple by undressing and getting right into painting. Or you might make the process of taking your clothes off a part of the experience.
You could perform a little striptease show for your partner. Play some seductive music in the background, dim the lights and slowly take your clothes off while your partner gets to enjoy the view.
Another way to spice things up is by undressing each other. It can be a very sensual and intimate experience. And it surely will create tension and get you both in the mood to create the most beautiful piece of art with your bodies.
STEP 4: LET YOUR INNER ARTIST SHINE
Once you’re both naked and excited to get started, grab the paint brushes and the paint and embrace your inner artist. Here you also have two options for painting your bodies.
You can make it into an individual experience where you paint yourself and your partner paints themselves. Then, once you’re done, you both get to watch the paint on your bodies melt together and transfer to the canvas.
Another way to go about this is by painting each other. This can be a very intimate experience, and the feel of your partner’s brush on your skin can be the best type of foreplay. You can even take it up a notch and kiss your partner’s body first before you use the brush to paint those spots.
When you’re both covered with paint, it’s time to create art! Lay down on the canvas together and see where the moment takes you. Experiment with different positions on the canvas to get the best results with the paint.
Play around together and see what you can create.
STEP 5: MAKE CLEAN UP FUN
The cleanup is not the most fun part of the sex painting process, but we have a suggestion on how to make it more fun. Make sure you use the single-use slippers to get to the bathroom after you’re done with your painting. Once you get into the shower or bath, help each other clean the paint off!
Every step of making a sex painting can be intimate and erotic, so take advantage of your shower and continue exploring each other’s bodies as the water washes away the paint. Showerhead masturbation is your best friend here!
Let the paint dry overnight. Once it’s dry, you want to frame it. Fit the canvas to its frame, and if you were working on paper, then a simple glass frame will help to make it look like an actual piece of art.
Choose a spot in your home where you want to hang it, and voila – you have a unique artwork for everyone to admire!
The fact that it’s your sex painting and nobody knows about it can be a huge turn-on. And every time you look at that piece as you walk past it, you’ll remember how much fun you had with your partner.
Public Nipple Play 101
The folks over at Lovense want you to know:
When we think of adult public play, we usually think of sex toys – or even going the old-fashioned way with using other parts of the body. But with the wonderful and continuous developments in the tech world, there are so many other options. And today we’re going to look at how this works into nipple play.
We’ll go over how to open a conversation with your partner, other key conversation points to have, how to take your first steps into public nipple play, what products you can use, etc.
But first, a very important note…
PUBLIC PLAY ISN’T “PUBLIC”
Before we dive in, I want to put out a clear disclaimer. Anytime we talk about public play on any Lovense articles or products, there is always the understanding that “public play” doesn’t actually mean partaking in pleasure when the people around you can witness it.
Instead, you should get used to attaching the term “discreet” to any concept of the term “public” in any sexual context here or on any other site.
Yes, there are people who get a thrill of being caught by actual strangers, etc. But getting down and dirty in any way shape or form (in an open setting) without other people’s consent, breaks one of the SSSC rules (safe, sane, sober, consensual). These make kink/BDSM play safe and healthy as opposed to the abusive side that gives good people like us a bad name. It can also be downright illegal in cases where younger eyes might happen upon even a glimpse.
This is why WHERE you choose to have your “public” play is very important – which we will cover later.
TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER
So, you want to try nipple play outside your home? Cool!
This kind of step can be great for anyone who wants to know what it’s like to have a public thrill without the weighted stress of a wearable sex toy like a love egg or a prostate massager, etc.
If your partner(s) are already kinky people, the conversation will be easy. But if they’re still more on the vanilla side, then wait for a time when your sexual temperatures are already going (or even after when you’re lingering in post-sex bliss). OR … whenever you feel is appropriate. Tell them what you want to try and see if they feel comfortable giving it a go.
If they are, great! If they’re nervous, you can always try baby steps by playing with these toys around the house while you’re going about your day, in the backyard, or a quick walk around the block.
Agree on both sides’ ground rules on what will make the experience 100% comfortable.
For example, maybe there will be zero things happening if someone is even within visual range. Perhaps you get full control over the nipple toys and your partner can only watch, etc.
The best choice for discreet pubic play is a vibrating nipple clamp set with Bluetooth or other long-distance technology. There are sets out there that can be controlled with a smartphone – even having control of each vibrator at a time.
But if these toys are too expensive, there are some with remotes attached (but they will be more fiddley and harder to be discreet with. Finally, you can have regular nipple clamps. But I would suggest having ones with some sort of dangling part so your partner can give a tug once in a while (if you want their participation, that is).
Also, speaking from experience, make sure you get an ADJUSTABLE set, so you can fix them to whatever pressure that makes you happy.
There’s one thing you can’t get around – no matter the style, 99% of the time nipple clamps will be visible under any kind of thin material. So, if you want to wear a silky dress or any old top (for guys) and go to a club while wearing a big, ‘ol set of nipple clamps, then everyone is going to see (and you could be breaking the SCCC rule depending on where you are or who you run into).
Instead, opt for some kind of bra with at least a little padding. Not only will they hide the clamps, but they will also help keep them in place. For guys, go through your shirts and see if there is a jacket or something that will help hide the goodies.
Finally, how accessible do you want these clamps if you don’t have ones with a smartphone connection option? Think about what you’re going to wear before stepping out the door.
I’m assuming you have a set with at least a remote control of some kind – otherwise, it’s nearly impossible. If you don’t know where to go to have fun, it’s simple.
You can go anywhere that has enough noise (to hide any possible pleasure sounds – but you’re still going to try everything you can to keep quiet). But the noise will also cover the sound of the toys because none are 100% quiet. More people also mean fewer eyes staring at what’s going on with you.
- Walking down a busy street
- A busy cafe or restaurant
- Walking through a park
- At a museum or gallery
- A club or concert
So, let’s say you get home from a session. Don’t forget to have a conversation about what you liked, what could be tweaked, and what you maybe don’t want to do anymore. This conversation can be as long or short as you want. For established players, it can even be, “Everything good?” “Yep!”
Just make sure you’re on the same page because there can be instances where someone might feel scared or embarrassed. So, check in before, during, and after play.
Enjoy!
Public Nipple Play 101 – Another Road to Discreet Pleasure
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